Forgive me journal, for I have sinned. It has been four months since my last confession. Four months filled with story ideas, interesting characters, and an abundance of conflict … with little resolution. Four months filled with the spectrum of emotions. Still, I’ve ignored you.
The more activity in my life, the more there is to write, the less time there is to write it.And so it is that I write a compacted summation, to contribute to the record:
Somewhere within the walls of these past four months I have cried; I have laughed; I have hurt someone and I have been hurt. Inside this span of time I’ve impacted a child’s life; perhaps I’ve impacted many. I’ve ignored some friends and loved ones; perhaps I've clung too closely to others. I have sinned, and have been sinned against. It has been a typical several months.
Now I ask your permission to expand one one aspect of these past four months. An aspect referred to as:
The Fate of a Life Aquatic:In August a face from the past entered the present. With the wave of a hand from behind the glass of a car window, Ocean reappeared in my life. We were both traveling, in separate cars, on the interstate. We were headed toward whatever obligations consumed our day. Whether it was the intervention of celestial beings, or a simple twist of serendipity, something occurred so that our individual obligations led us to the same road, on the same day, at the same time. Since distance was always an issue for us in our past relationship (living states apart) this was quite the unexpected affair. As first, when I saw her, I doubted what I saw - it certainly wouldn't make sense that she be there, on that exact road, at that exact time.
Then familiarity settled in ...
it had to be her, right? Who else could it be? As she drove by me, I noticed the license plates ... Rhode Island ...
yes, this must be her. My body shook; my heart raced. Was this a sign? Was this fate? Fate is often man-made; our mind manipulates our worldly surroundings, our perceptions and reasoning. Perhaps my run-in with Ocean was fate, maybe it was man-made. Regardless, it brought us back together, at least, for one fleeting moment on the highway. Soon after I saw her, I tried to call her. I had rehearsed what I was going to say to her. I wanted to tell her how my body leaped, and seized, all at once when I saw her on the road ... I couldn't stop thinking of it, of her, of the absurdity of my seeing her. I wanted to know if she thought, like I did, that this could indeed be fate. I hesitated dialing the last digit of her number. I was scared ... no ... nervous. It was a welcomed nervousness; I hadn't felt that emotion toward another person in so long. I eventually unearthed enough courage to hit that last digit.
A pause.Then a voice, a woman’s voice. No, not Ocean’s voice. The voice of that woman, the faceless one, the one who tells you that the number you just dialed is no longer in service. Please try your call again.
Disconnected.At first I was relieved, then frustrated. I sought out her friend, a mutual friend, for advice. Soon after, I got her number and left her a message:
I was so nervous, but so excited to see you on that road. I had been thinking of you before then, and then I see you on the road? How crazy is that? Isn't that crazy?A few days later I received a photo text message, from Ocean, of a turtle – one of those little wooden turtles whose head bounces around like a buoy. Attached to the photo were the words: “Guess Who.” Again, my heart raced. This was the turtle I gave to her when I returned from Los Angeles in Feb. 2006, and still she had it. Again, my body leaped, and seized at once.
We reunited.
The honeymoon weeks of our reunion were, of course, wonderful. The newness of relationships is an aphrodisiac, even if it is the second time around. Letters sent in the mail, late-night conversations. But lately the course has changed. Aggravations are abounding. Frustrations float freely. The distance that distanced us in the past, lurks again inside our hearts. It’s been weeks since last I saw her; our conversations are limited to pleasantry-laced moments from a cell phone, when service is available. Her days consist of obligation after obligation – and these obligations are burying her. My passiveness is not matching well with her hectic schedule. She needs more attention than I can provide at this time … perhaps she needs more attention than I even
want to provide. I don’t know. But I get sad thinking about the span of that one week in August, when my heart raced twice. When a picture of a toy turtle gave me a smile.
Was this fate?